There are a lot of assumptions and myths about anal sex: Men want more. Not nice for her. Everyone is doing it, other than you. There is no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth.
These sexual myths are demonstrably false; all they do is expose the fact that people do not talk about anal sex quite well, because it is still relatively taboo in general conversation. But why should this be? As part of a loving relationship, or even as part of a brief encounter hot, anal sex has a lot to offer. Not to mention, the relative nature of anal taboo is part of its appeal for many participants.
There are two difficult obstacles. First, how do you start when you want, and secondly, how do you make more pleasant and enjoyable anal sex?
Starting Anal Sex: SHE
When you decide you are ready for anal sex, you need to have control of it from start to finish. That means you need to make it clear that you want it, because it would be too uncertain to start without your express permission. The easiest way to tell him you want anal is, well, to tell you want anal. Many men are not as good at picking up dropped hints or reading the subtlety of her body language, so directly and explicitly told him she wants is the only fail-safe method.
Note: tells you very explicitly that wants anal while already having sex with him will have the best results. That’s like a golden ticket for most guys.
There are several ways to start anal sex, however. Texting or emailing him their wishes him know your intentions well in advance, but this has two drawbacks: first, it may no longer be in the mood when it comes to it, and two, it you might think that that’s all you want, so it’s going to focus on that and leave the rest of your body wanting.
A more attractive approach to say that anal sex does not want to tell, but to show him. Let him see you play alone, perhaps with a little vibration or even a plug, and put it anywhere they want. It will drive you crazy, and you get what you want, where you want.
Starting anal sex: HE
What do anal sex hurt? Yes, very often does, even if it does not hurt for long. But it is pleasurable anal sex? Yes, potentially. But you have to approach it … sensitive.
If you have not started or become obvious that she’s open to anal sex, or if you are not sure who gave you the green light 100%, then you need to make sure it’s okay before trying, otherwise you will spend a while before trying again.
So for the above, there are several options available: directly say during sex or foreplay, tell beforehand via text or email, or show what you want to pay for your back a little extra attention during foreplay and gauge his reaction.
There is a way a little more adventure to begin anal sex, if you’re already having sex. Find a comfortable position - we suggest a kind of spoon position, with her laying on her side, facing away from you, and you behind her. This position is good because it is comfortable, all your body weight is supported and your muscles are relaxed. Then pull it out and rub himself against her ass. She will quickly recognize if it is okay or not without having to break the mood.
But remember, there are no shortcuts and there’s nothing like a good honest communication bedroom - and a good dirty talk counts as a good communication.
Make anal sex more pleasurable
While there are those rare times when, as the alignment stars, the mood will hit both at the same time and you will have the most amazing and satisfactory anal sex imaginable, usually there is some preparation required.
Remember that if you’re getting anal sex, you need to have control of it, to any degree desired. You will need to control the speed and you will have to listen to you, otherwise it will be uncomfortable and will stop. The opportunity could be lost to a little confidence can be rebuilt.
Here are three things to try to help the best anal sex.
You probably already know that lubrication or an intimate high quality moisturizer is essential for anal sex. The more the better. Apply enough to squeeze a manatee in a mailbox and then apply more. The more lubricant in question, the more enjoyable it will be for both. It’s as simple as that.
Condoms are great for anal, and not just because they improve your sexual safety. Made condoms make anal sex better because its softness responds best to lubricate the skin does. Condoms slide more easily, and as a result, are more comfortable. What’s more, can help prevent a climax too soon too
The introduction of some anal toys like a butt plug or prostate massager vibration can help ease the transition into the anal sex and using toys during foreplay growing size you’ll find it much easier when your turn comes. Then try to stimulate her clitoris with a small external vibrator while you’re having sex twice the intensity of the feelings and build a very gratifying orgasm.
In summary, the most important part of enjoying a better anal sex, or any sex for that matter, is speaking. The most sensitive erogenous zone is between the ears, to stimulate one and the sex is always mindblowing.